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England, Green and Pleasant Land
Hello! It’s been a while since I’ve updated the blog. But we are still standing, most of the time! Always surviving, sometimes thriving! According to the WordPress records, I haven’t left an update since June 30, 2022…uh, can you agree that was a quantum lifetime ago? Next month will be ten years since Vernon’s accident.…
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Invincible Summer
“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger – something better, pushing right back.” —Albert Camus Painting by me. May 23rd, 2022 was the 8 year…
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Structural Cracks
We are coming up to SEVEN years since Vernon’s accident took place so I thought I’d share some reflections I pulled together a few months ago. One of the metaphors that keeps returning to my life is the idea of a structural crack: how the tiniest fissure can go unnoticed over long periods of time…
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Goodbye, Normal.
[et_pb_section admin_label=”section”][et_pb_row admin_label=”row”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text”] “if you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” —Maya Angelou “So…are you getting used to the new normal?” the friendly grocery story checker asked from behind his mask. I was grateful he was wearing one, as the last time I…
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Priceless
“Love is a state of being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you.”—Eckart Tolle After Vernon died, and I marched through the long corridor of intentional healing, I heard variations of this one phrase over and over: “Grief is price we pay…
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Throwing Rocks (Justine’s Story)
“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it break.” —William Shakespeare Justine said it was ok for me to share this story. I made sure to ask her permission before I wrote this and we read it together after. On Friday mornings, when I can,…
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Woodcuts
“I live my life in ever-widening circles that reach out across the world.” —Rainier Maria Rilke Did you know that the Anniversary #5 is traditionally celebrated with gifts made of wood? Dendrochronology is the science of dating events and variations in former periods by comparative study of growth rings in trees. Think of a cut…
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Return to Place
It seems to me that a room or a building or a field or a town can be a container for memories you once left there, so returning to this place after a long time can be a powerful experience. Of course, the person you are on the day you return can temper the exchange.…
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Therapy and Poetry
“Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.” ― Fred Rogers Five months ago, in October, I…
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Baby Theo
“Every child comes with the message that God is not yet discouraged of man.“— Rabindranath Tagore February. What a month. So many significant dates. Vernon’s birthday, Valentine’s Day. Today marks 4 years since we found out he was ineligible for a kidney transplant (the most disappointing day of my life.) I was going to write…